Our old sinful nature is more selfish than we think.  But in the family of God we follow Jesus who unselfishly gave His own life to save us, when we could not help ourselves (Romans 5:6-8).  If He did that for us, then how much should we do for others, especially those who cannot help themselves?  

One of the first tests of our faith in Christ is the way in which we treat people in our own families and in the church who are unable to care for themselves.  It is God’s nature to provide for the needy (Psalm 68:5); a responsibility He gives to His children (James 1:27).
 
Practically, it is only fair.  Our parents sacrificed their time, energy and money to look after us as we grew up: so when they are less able to provide for themselves, we have a moral obligation to help them.  That is a personal debt of honour which we should not ignore.  It is also a spiritual priority to care for parents and grandparents, and to do so lovingly (Ephesians 6:1-3).  When we do so, God is pleased.  If we despise this instruction, God is dishonoured (Ezekiel 34:4).
 
The care of elderly relatives can be one of the most testing experiences of our adult lives.  Our parents understand this because often they will also have looked after their parents or other relatives.  They know the cost.  Some will do everything to avoid being a burden on the family; others will indulge what they see as their right.  Nevertheless, it is our spiritual duty to administer God’s grace to frail and mortal humanity; it is a very important part of following Jesus.  Do read our article on ‘Being a burden’ (www.beaconlight.co.uk/articles/lets-rethink-the-reality-of-being-a-burden) to understand more of how God places people in families so that they can honour Him by serving each other.